A Man Without A Woman Is Like A Unicorn Without A 9-Iron
Guys, since when do women "owe" us sex?
Once upon a time, so the fairy tale went, a woman was somehow incomplete without a man. After all, how could a woman be happy and fulfilled coming home to a cat and an empty house? How could they hope to fulfill their traditional duties of wife and mother without a man in their life? Was not a single woman in her 30s and 40s automatically suspect? A spinster or a closet lesbian?
A woman without a man was like peanut butter without jelly, somehow lacking and incomplete. And women who chose their career over marriage and family were viewed as miserable, joyless harpies who couldn’t keep a man, or- even worse- no man would want. How could it be otherwise, when being a wife and mother was considered the highest of callings for a woman?
The sum total of a woman’s worth revolved around her ability to attract a man, get married, get pregnant, and run a household. Who needed a career when there was a hearth and home to attend to and children to raise? Sure, a woman could work for a few years, but once she started a family, her role was to keep the home fires burning.
Sadly, I can be SO naive at times. Here I’d been thinking that perhaps we as a society had moved past the idea that women were vessels for bearing children. Silly wabbit; there are still knuckle-dragging troglodytes in the GOP who have yet to drag themselves out of the ‘50s.
Take Floriduh Republican Congressman Matt Gaetz, who, being married to a young and successful woman, should be more cognizant of a woman’s options. I can only hope his wife slaps him upside the head for the above troglodytic tweet because it’s straight out of the ‘50s.
“Over-educated, under-loved millennials who sadly return home from protests to a lonely microwave dinner with their cat, and no bumble matches?”
The sheer arrogance and dismissiveness of that tweet are so stunning that it’s difficult to know where to begin. So how about starting at the beginning?
“Over-educated and under-loved millennials?” By over-educated, does Rep. Gaetz mean brighter than he is? Because that’s a pretty low bar. Gaetz is a first-class, Grade-A, top-shelf, USDA Prime tool with the intellectual agility of an after-dinner mint. And what constitutes “over-educated?” I don’t know about anyone else, but I think intelligent women are hot. If a man is intimidated by a smart woman, that’s a “them” problem, knowhutimean??
And “under-loved?” I’m not sure what that means, but I’m guessing Gaetz is relating it to being single- as if being in a relationship is the perfect solution to any woman’s problems. What he fails to understand is that sometimes men are the cause of a woman’s problems. Sometimes, being single is the best solution available to them.
So what if a woman returns home to “a lonely microwave dinner with their cat, and no bumble matches?” The idea that a woman’s life is only of value when attached to a man is absurd. There’s nothing wrong with anyone- male or female- being single by choice, taking a break from dating, or even choosing to live with their cat(s). All of us have the right to choose our living situation, and no one has the right to judge us for it.
After all, most reasonably well-adjusted people would agree that not being in a relationship is preferable to being in a bad and unhealthy one.
I realize that what Gaetz is doing is denigrating women who’ve chosen to protest the first draft of the Supreme Court decision overturning Roe v. Wade. He’s trying to belittle them and deny the validity of their collective voice. That said, I’d wager that the women protesting in support of Roe are every bit as intelligent, if not far more so, than he is. Again, as I’ve already stated, it’s a low bar, and I think most women would choose to aim far higher.
The problem for Gaetz and troglodytes like him is they’re afraid that if women don’t lower their standards, some men will never get laid again. When women become smart enough to learn they have options and can set high standards for themselves and potential partners, “incels” might be permanently single.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing. Women should be able to make their own choices independently of what men expect of them. Women don’t “owe” sex (or anything else) to men. That’s a matter of free choice, and a woman may choose to participate in a sexual act with a man, but that participation must be consensual.
Men that fear intelligent and successful women need to look at themselves to learn what it is they fear. If they’re expecting a woman to obey them, they can certainly find that, but as women learn they have options and rights they’re becoming more assertive and independent. They’re doing what THEY want and making decisions they feel are best for themselves. Men can no longer expect a woman to acquiesce to their “authority.”
So if a woman returns to a microwave dinner and her cat(s) and is happy with that, where’s the problem? Rep. Gaetz may think that’s a problem, but the women in question problem wouldn’t sleep with him if he was the last man on Earth. She undoubtedly has higher standards.
And if she’s willing to wait instead of settling for a troll like Gaetz, more power to her.
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