Oh, Jack. I’m so sorry. Having just gone through this with my mom, I know exactly how you feel. What a devastating blow, and my heart goes out to you and lovely Erin. We don’t have ANY elder care in this country, and once a person’s mind goes, so goes their quality of life, and everybody suffers. I didn’t want you and Erin to suffer, too.
Thanks, Stacey. It was, as you well know, awful, horrible, and terrible. Seeing someone you love reduced to a hollow husk of their former self is impossible to describe and excruciating to endure. I'm glad that she's passed, in that her suffering is finally over. The denouement dragged out for weeks, and it's taken a toll on Erin. I wanted to go into greater detail, but her family is pretty private, so I limited it to my feelings, and it's hit me pretty hard.
That said, it feels good knowing there are people out there who have my back. ❤️
This echoes our experience 6 weeks ago almost exactly, including the time of evening and that we were right there with him when he died. He also spent his last several months in memory care in Longview. Thank you for putting into words the feelings of relief when the person you already lost is allowed to stop suffering.
It's hard to know where the line that separates grief from relief is, but I'm learning that in the case of dementia, they often parallel one another. ❤️
I was fortunate in that my father always trusted me. So when the time came to move him into assisted living, he did not fight me or the process. I had to remove myself from the job market for two years to take care of his property and finances, which rendered me permanently unemployable, despite a publication record that was quite a bit better than many. The last time I saw him, he thanked me for visiting but felt obliged to mention how very much I reminded him of his son.
I am so very sorry for your loss. And yes, I do understand.
Thank you, Gary. I'm learning (as if I didn't already know) that I've joined a very large fraternity, one that no one really wants to belong to. This sucks more ways than I have words to describe. 🤷🏻♂️
Oh, Jack. I’m so sorry. Having just gone through this with my mom, I know exactly how you feel. What a devastating blow, and my heart goes out to you and lovely Erin. We don’t have ANY elder care in this country, and once a person’s mind goes, so goes their quality of life, and everybody suffers. I didn’t want you and Erin to suffer, too.
Thanks, Stacey. It was, as you well know, awful, horrible, and terrible. Seeing someone you love reduced to a hollow husk of their former self is impossible to describe and excruciating to endure. I'm glad that she's passed, in that her suffering is finally over. The denouement dragged out for weeks, and it's taken a toll on Erin. I wanted to go into greater detail, but her family is pretty private, so I limited it to my feelings, and it's hit me pretty hard.
That said, it feels good knowing there are people out there who have my back. ❤️
Beautiful.
Thank you. It's been a very long year. Barb is finally at peace. ❤️
This echoes our experience 6 weeks ago almost exactly, including the time of evening and that we were right there with him when he died. He also spent his last several months in memory care in Longview. Thank you for putting into words the feelings of relief when the person you already lost is allowed to stop suffering.
It's hard to know where the line that separates grief from relief is, but I'm learning that in the case of dementia, they often parallel one another. ❤️
I was fortunate in that my father always trusted me. So when the time came to move him into assisted living, he did not fight me or the process. I had to remove myself from the job market for two years to take care of his property and finances, which rendered me permanently unemployable, despite a publication record that was quite a bit better than many. The last time I saw him, he thanked me for visiting but felt obliged to mention how very much I reminded him of his son.
I am so very sorry for your loss. And yes, I do understand.
Thank you, Gary. I'm learning (as if I didn't already know) that I've joined a very large fraternity, one that no one really wants to belong to. This sucks more ways than I have words to describe. 🤷🏻♂️